We have all heard the expression Feel the Fear and do it anyway as the title of the famous book by Susan Jeffers and I am sure many of us have read it and found it very useful. After all the message is very simple. But applying it is never as simple as it appears. So many of us separate ourselves from each other. After all we are one being, one energy, all interconnected with everything else in the universe. We are made of the same matter as the sun, moon, stars and planets and everything else.Yet we see ourselves as separate from each other. Our ego’s need us to give meaning to everything in our lives and often need us to be right or better than and to do that we make others wrong and less than ourselves. Yet this is a fallacy for everything is One and therefore we each have to be as good as the other. How do we separate ourselves? It is our thoughts that separate us, our beliefs and experiences. What we have learned from our families and societies and what we have experienced ourselves. All that unconscious knowledge is ruling what we think about and thus what we feel because whatever we think about results in a feeling in our body. Whether it be joy or sorrow, love or hate, fear or excitement. They are all feelings in our body. Many of us are ruled by our fears, rather than our hopes and wishes. Our fears can be real or imagined. we can fear the loss of our job and our income, our security, we can fear the loss of a loved one or the breakdown of a marriage. We all notice and have compassion for those less fortunate than ourselves and yet we focus on your individual worries, which are brought about by our fears and it is these fears that separate us.
But What is Fear? Fear is a feeling in our body. It can appear as a tingling, as a heaviness in the pit of the stomach or in the heart area. Everyone is different and everyone will experience fear in a different way. But Where does it come from? I believe we are taught fear. Most two year olds go out and explore the world and seem to fear very little. But adults do in their desire to protect instil fear into us. Fear of the unknown becomes the normal way of being. But fear is in fact just a physical response to an imagined thought. We imagine something, a thought appears in our minds, we evaluate it according to our prior experience and the habits we have inherited and copied from our family, friends, society and then we continue to imagine dire consequences should we take an action.
But lets re-evaluate that feeling. What does that feeling in our body actually represent? How else could we interpret that feeling? Could it be butterflies in our stomachs, could it be nervousness, could it be excitement, after all it is our feeling and we can interpret it in anyway we choose. Does it have to be fear? In fact what are we actually thinking about and imagining? We can of course change what we are thinking about, what we are imagining and thereby change our feelings. Try it for yourself. Think about or imagine something sad, the loss of a loved one, a pet or imagine how you would feel if you were facing your biggest fear. Let your imagination run away with you for a minute or two. Notice how you feel and how your imagination is working overtime to help you feel really bad, scared, sad etc. Then take back control of your mind and start to think about something good, start to imagine something wonderful. Think about those hopes and dreams, of the life you want to live of achieving all your dreams, or even of what you will do to when you win the lottery. Notice how you feel in your body and notice how your imagination is now creating those feelings.
We forget that we create our own reality by what we chose to focus our attention on. Whatever we think and imagine becomes our reality at that moment in time and as such we have the power to change it. We can change our personal reality in the moment and thus not only our personal reality in the future but also our collective reality. We see this happening with drinking and driving, smoking, etc as well as nations coming together to free themselves from oppression. We can and do choose to experience life differently. We can choose to notice what unifies us, where we are the same rather than different. we think and thereby feel.
As we draw towards the end of 2012 it is time to end this separation of people though religion, race, creed, colour, beliefs etc and see ourselves not as part of a particular group, but as unique individuals, unique souls whose existence is interdependent on all other forms of existence such as the air we breath and the planet we live upon. Now is a time for us all to stand together and bring peace and unity into our world. This can only be done by letting go of the fear, which is false fear, learned and exploited rather than being a reality. As we bring peace and unity into our individual lives then so the fear in our world will diminish. As we let go of our individual fears then so our collective fears diminish as well.
For too long our world has reflected the imbalance energies that prevails within each of us. Over the last 25,000 years there have been cycles when either the masculine energy or the feminine energy has prevailed. The masculine energy protects and the feminine energy nurtures. The imbalance in the protective energy brings fear. Now is the time to bring the two energies into balance and to unify them within ourselves and our world. Neither can exist without the other and neither need to dominate the other. As these energies come into balance then so the inner truth of oneness in separateness is attained.
This is all serious stuff of course but “angels fly because they take themselves lightly” and so we need to let go of “trying to” and just do it by being playful children for it is through play that we learn and grow new experiences most quickly. As we reconnect to the innocence of the child within each and everyone one of us we can explore and play and as we play we can see and experience the sameness within our uniqueness and we can create a joy filled world for ourselves, each other and our world.
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© Joylina Goodings 2012