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Struggling to reach your goal

Janine Rogerson 17 Nov 2014 comments
Struggling to reach your goal

Person- centred coaching is becoming more and more popular throughout many different countries. Counselling and coaching have always remained two separate professions, however things are slowly changing as the core conditions of Carl Rogers are proving to be widespread across the globe.

Implementing the person-centred core conditions is the key to an ethically sound and respectful relationship the core conditions were first introduced in counselling and are now being implemented in coaching and mentoring.

Empathy, unconditional positive regard and congruence are the three main keys and conditions that a person-centred therapists or coach would implement to help facilitate change. Without any of these conditions the healing relationship cannot form as a client must feel at ease and be able to talk about what they are feeling and thinking without fearing rejection or any judgement from the coach.

Implementing genuineness towards the client being an equal also puts the client at ease and picking up the feelings of the client and reflecting them back are all the ethical coaching techniques used to help form a person-centred therapeutic relationship.

As outlined in the BACP (2010) guidelines the coach uses interventions which are more likely to be developmental in nature helping the client to build on any weaknesses or strengths. The coach will also help the client to develop their potential, desires, beliefs and actions and help the client to gain a better understanding of their self.

Many tools are needed to engage the client in a coaching relationship such as, supporting the client in relation to reaching their goals by assessing their process identifying solutions and actions facilitating the client’s own thought processes to making real and lasting change.

Building a rapport with the client from the start to finish is crucial. In some serious cases 99% of rapport may be needed especially if there are any challenging areas such as cultural differences, language barriers or challenging behaviour. However less rapport makes the coaching less effective and if less rapport is needed at the start then it will take more efforts for the coach to help the client reach their goal action towards the end.

Paraphrasing and mirroring are special techniques which are also used to help the client therapeutic relationship so if the client speaks slowly and is quite calm in nature then the coach would follow the same pattern to help put the client at ease throughout the coaching session, matching the clients body language body movements, tone of voice and pace.

Coaching can only be effective when incorporating the right coaching model and there are many different coaching models and techniques to choose from. There is one coaching model that has proved to be extremely effective and is really easy to follow with just five easy steps to work through either for you or for guiding someone else.

The coaching model that has proved to be popular over the last few years is a model called the Tgrow model which is short and simple to incorporate. Here are a few tips on how to use the Tgrow model, follow the five steps and you will find that the model is really effective and can be used on anyone who is facing any barriers or challenges.

  • TIPS
  • T – Topic
  • G – Goal
  • R – Reality
  • O – Options
  • W - Willpower

1) The first stage represents the “TOPIC” which looks at the ideas presented for discussion.

2) The second stage is discussing your “GOAL” that you wish to achieve, is it easily achievable in reality looking at where you are in regards to reaching and achieving your goal.

3) The third stage then leads on to the “REALITY” stage looking at whether the goal is obtainable because of certain situations sometimes the goal could be slightly out of reach due to circumstances that you cannot control or maintaining a goal that’s realistic to follow and not poles apart.

4) The fourth stage looks at your “OPTIONS” and your present state and the reality of achieving your goal. Looking at the different options you/client has in order to work towards the goal.

5) The fifth stage focuses on your “WILLPOWER” the point at where the coach, you/client identify and agree on certain actions and a way forward in ascertaining the subsequent actions supporting you/client to make their choice with trust honesty and confidence in pursuing the goal, for example making a plan and following it.

The model is extremely effective for anyone wishing to make progress in their own personal development and the model is easily embedded in the memory for future reference should you wish to use it again.

Counselling, coaching and mentoring are all proving to be popular forms of personal development skills that are being implemented worldwide, the differences between counselling, coaching and mentoring are:- a counsellor will work on the past, complex issues or barriers, a coach will support and motivate you, and mentor will teach you how to do something.

© Janine Rogerson 2014

Janine Rogerson

Janine Rogerson

I have studied a degree in counselling, coaching and mentoring and I am currently coaching youths with personal development programs. I have been reading spiritual and personal development for over 30 Years. I am also qualified in Meditation, Reiki and do practice my psychic medium work in my spare time, soon to be training with top International mediums.

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