When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be, When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need – Tao Te Ching
It’s that time of year again when New Year resolutions have been made and in an instant broken.
Most people will make a New Year’s resolution maybe it is to lose weight, to quit smoking or drink less ,but only one in ten will keep their resolution.
Given the time of year and the sudden change of lifestyle demanded by most resolutions, it should not be surprising that most resolutions are abandoned as soon as they have begun.
Fortunately the next New Year and the one after that and the one after that once again gives a person the opportunity to make the same resolution again so the scenario gets played out year after year.
One of the most common reasons we break our New Year’s resolutions is that we get a little overzealous or over ambitious or hastily make a resolution on the fly after too many toasts at a New Year’s party.
It is important to remember that the New Year isn’t meant to serve as a catalyst for sweeping character changes.
It is a time for people to reflect on their past year’s behavior and promise to make positive lifestyle changes
It’s a time to step back from our life to reconsider where we’ve been and where we want to go.
For a lot of people , self-reflection is a missing piece of their lives.
People can get very busy and the idea of spending several hours or more in their living room, sitting quietly and reflecting on the past year, can seem strange and a bit uncomfortable.
But in the waning hours of the year, it is a wonderful opportunity for people to excavate their lives and reconsider what they wish to do with the time they have left.
Many people sometimes find it difficult to maintain and accomplish their resolutions and making lasting changes to your life is tough, which is probably why 92% of people fail at their New Year’s resolutions every year.
This year, why not resolve to keep a reasonable resolution?
The smaller the changes you try to make to your life, the more likely you’ll actually make them and that way the changes will actually stick.
When it comes to your New Year resolutions, research and experience show that you’re much more likely to be successful if you lay out a small list of very specific goals and outline a clear plan of action to achieve them.
So consider what matters most to you in the coming year?
What are you passionate about and well-equipped to achieve?
By making your resolutions smaller and realistic, there is a greater chance that you will keep them throughout the year, incorporating healthy behavior into your everyday life.
What you are now is based on what has gone before and if you stay where you are, you will find it difficult to reach your full potential
The one thing you do have the power to do is let go of things you don’t want or need whether out of habit or because of peer pressure or family pressure as humans we naturally cling to thoughts, feelings, and individuals.
When you let go, you allow yourself to accept the changes in life and sometimes life changes anyway but you have to let go of your old limits and those things that hold you in this place.
They might be old beliefs, they might be old values, and they might be old places but sometimes moving to the next level is as much about what you gain as what you leave behind.
You don’t have to fully let go of your past mistakes and your bad habits, opening yourself up to the risk of being hurt allows you to realise that you are capable of handling the pain you already have.
The more you allow yourself to let go, you begin to break the strong identification you have with the emotions that arise within you from moment to moment.
This allows you to feel more peace and joy, even when things don’t go your way.
As you continue to let yourself go of your thoughts and feelings in this way, you will begin to feel lighter, happier, more at home and at ease both within your own skin and in the world.
Letting go is an invitation to heal yourself and then you will laugh a lot more and have a lot more fun in life.
What will be your New Year resolution for 2016 and what will you allow into your life this year?