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Giving and Receiving

Maggy Whitehouse 09 Jan 2019 comments
Giving and Receiving

Not an awful lot of giving goes on in the world. That may surprise you. But mostly what goes on is exchange. Not that there’s anything at all wrong with exchange; it’s what makes the world go round; it’s what money is all about. But exchange doesn’t harness the law of attraction in the same way as giving does. That may be why it is that you feel that you give and give and give but nothing seems to come back in return.

After all, most of the world’s spiritual teachings say that the secret of life is giving and that if you give, you will receive. And they’re right. But it has to be unconditional giving — and we’re not very well trained in that.

So let’s take a look at what is giving and what is exchange.

• It’s exchange when you swap gifts with someone, knowing in advance that this is what’s going to happen.

• It’s exchange when you give in order to feel good about yourself.

• It’s exchange when you have to give a present or you’ll feel bad about being mean.

• It’s exchange when you give because you should give, because it’s what good people do.

• It’s exchange when you know you’ll be found wanting by another if you don’t give.

• It’s exchange when you give in order to have another person thank you or admire you.

• It’s exchange when you give in order to make sure the other person has the gift that you want them to have rather than something they might have liked better.

• It’s exchange when you get to go to Nepal or Vietnam or another trip of a lifetime on a sponsored trip in order to help underprivileged kids.

The law of attraction doesn’t give back when it’s exchange. That’s because you got the pay-off immediately. Again, there’s nothing wrong with exchange. We’d all be a lot poorer without it. But to the law of attraction, it simply isn’t giving if there are any conditions.

Don’t worry; you may well feel great during any part of the exchange process and then your vibration is high and you’ll attract good things. But the vibration has to be clear.

So how do we give? The perfect giving is giving because we can’t help but give; because we are so full and flowing with the joy and grace of life that we can’t help but give.

And the most powerful giving of all is when we give privately, in secret, without any expectation whatsoever of reward or payback. The giving itself is the delight. And such giving has such a lovely vibration that the law of attraction flows energy and grace towards you; it’s impossible for it not to.

It’s also giving when you allow someone else the gift of being able to give to you. After all, giving feels so good that it’s a bit mean not to let someone else have that pleasure isn’t it? But to do that, of course, you have to be able to receive.

That’s the other tricky bit.

The inability to receive is the primary reason why we go on giving and giving (or exchanging) when we are running on empty. And again, nothing seems to come back.

It’s receiving when you say ‘thank you.’ It’s refusing to receive when you dismiss someone else’s gift whether it’s a compliment or something physical.

Okay so it may be a sweater from the charity shop but if the other person likes it and says so, you need to allow them the pleasure of giving their gift of a compliment by receiving it. And if they think you look good, then do them the respect of allowing their opinion. Whether you think you look like a bag lady or a dog’s dinner is irrelevant at that point. They have a right to have a good opinion of you; that’s their gift.

And I know it’s hard to receive ‘gifts’ that you don’t want from friends and family with gratitude but do it, just this once if you can. That’s the real gift…

But perhaps this is all getting a little too complicated. If there’s any message that I want to get over, it’s this: give up! By giving up you create space for the new and the good to come.

So this is a challenging time for you, head for those wardrobes and cupboards now and clear out everything that is no longer relevant. You are not going to fit into that again! You are not going to bring back the ‘good’ past by keeping it. You are not going to go to the ball in that Cinderella! Give it up! Only when you give it up can your fairy godmother bring you the new wonders.

And if you are going to take it to the charity shop then bless it, and bless it and bless it so that your love and blessing goes to the new and grateful owner who will never, ever know who you are.

You can also use the system of tithing. It’s a Biblical system that isn’t religious — it’s just a perfect way of harnessing the law of attractions. There are three tithes and, if you follow them in the perfect order, they bring prosperity to you (and to others).

The first tithe is when you give directly to and for inspiration. That means you are putting your money where your higher self is; where your joy is; to the book, workshop, teacher, whatever, that will bring you closer to the Source energy. And that’s the perfect giving because it has such a clear intention. And the Source flows love straight back to you. You can use this tithe to purchase the perfect source of inspiration or you can just give it away — and it can just be 50p; the amount doesn’t matter, it’s the order that matters.

The second tithe is for celebration, which is where you celebrate the joy of being alive. This gives joy to God that we are experiencing Its creation so happily. So both these tithes are simultaneously giving and receiving. You give for inspiration and joy purely because you want to celebrate growth and life. With the second tithe, buy yourself a treat, whether it’s some chocolate, a glass of wine or some flowers.

The third tithe is to charity/others. So then, and then only do you pay the bills or give to charity. This may seem selfish but, if you give to others first, the law of attraction sees you not wanting any prosperity yourself and therefore it doesn’t give you any. And you can help others far more from abundant living and prosperity consciousness than you can if you are worried and broke.

If there is nothing or no one that inspires you, then just do the second tithe. But if nothing inspires you, there is a big clue in what’s going on in your prosperity consciousness. We all need inspiration, purpose and clarity on our path. So make it your task for the next month to discover how to be inspired. You’ll never regret that.

If there’s nothing specific, be brave and give it directly to God/the Universe! Amid the clutter and fuss, find a sacred or secret place (the middle of a garden or field will do) and give thanks for your life. Bless yourself and everything on this beautiful planet. Perceive that all is very, very good. And leave a little gift of money behind you. It’s not your business who or what picks it up; it’s your unconditional gift to God.

Your gift may not be seen or appreciated by any human being. But it will be adored by the Holy One and it will bring you peace, hope and goodwill in return.

So may your days be blessed and holy and peaceful and filled with goodness and delight.

And enjoy all the exchanging!

© Maggy Whitehouse 2011

Maggy Whitehouse

Maggy Whitehouse

Maggy Whitehouse, the author of 17 books on Kabbalah, Bible metaphysics, spirituality and prosperity. Maggy is an independent Catholic priest and mystic who specialises in clarifying ancient wisdom for the modern world.

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