Making the most of your dreams works on a similar level to being able to ask a tarot reader the right question. Unless you have a focused question, you’re just going to get a general outlook. Your brain is just going to spit out either the last thoughts you are going over at night, events from the day, or your brain could just throw you something else out of the subconscious closet.
The content of your dreams is not of a uniform formula or set presentation being displayed to you. You have the ability to ASK your subconscious just what you want to dream about. As discussed in my last Silent Voices article ‘A different kind of real,’ you too can tap into that inner wealth of subconscious truth, and get some real direction in your life. So just what can I ask my dreams?
ASK yourself, what you want to know, and then ASK yourself to dream about it.
What have you got to lose? By planting the idea in your subconscious, you are allowing it to show you what you wish, without too many thoughts or other information interfering.
Asking your self a question to dream about is a good way to subconsciously connect to anything, or anyone.
Just like in meditation, in your dreams you are losing the conscious mind, the ego, the things that make you search for answers without. Really, you can discover so much from within. So what makes a good question?
The key to asking a useful question is one that makes your subconscious tell you a story.
You can ask anything really, but it’s about asking the right type of question. This is why the question can be more important than the answer. For example, if you ask something like ‘should I date person x?’ Well, that’s too limiting. Your subconscious can see many more perspectives than just one. Humans are often ambivalent creatures so we’re apt for having conflicting thoughts and emotions. So it is unlikely that your lateral mind is going to spit out a simple ‘yes or no’ type answer.
There’s also the other end of the spectrum where you can be too vague in your question, such as ‘will me and such and such go on a date?’ Your subconscious could give you a virtual-only date, in your head. Or it could show you how a date could go. It could also just have you running around showing you how you wont go on a date, or showing you the conflicting feelings you could have on one if you did… Now trying to decipher the context of that? Good luck! Or let’s work out how to rephrase a question so it is useful.
We must remember that the subconscious is quite a lateral tool. Dreams are a rather creative expression using indirect approaches and reasoning. In other words, it’s going to tell you a story, in an abstract way.
A dream is made to be cryptic so you do not mistake it for real life – working it all out is half of the fun!
So as an alternative to the vague date question above, you could ask something like ‘what would be the benefits of pursuing and emotional relationship with person x?’ – you could similarly, ask what are the disadvantages, however if you ask for the negative, be prepared for a darker dream!
Here are some of my favourite open questions that I find really helpful:
‘What is currently being hidden from me in **this scenario**?’ – It’s a good way to see whatever else you can’t quite piece together – both positive and negative.
If you’re in a curious mood, you can always ask something like, ‘What does the month of June have in store for me.’ Or, ‘What will be a prominent theme for me this month?’
If you’re asking a personal question, or are just trying to solve inner conflict, it can be good to direct the subconscious to show you a particular quality or perspective as the answer. Such as, ‘what underlying emotion do I need to focus on to change my feelings surrounding **this scenario**?’ You can even ask ‘what are my limiting beliefs surrounding my view of myself/person x/this scenario.’
This sort of approach to question asking is also great for tarot readings, runes, or any type of divination via a specific medium. So often in life we want the answer, or truth. Really, it’s all perspective. You don’t live life to get to the end to get a yes or no, right or wrong. Sometimes you will come to certain conclusions and realize you want to know more – great! Asking your dreams gives you the means to come to a conclusion by seeing things from another perspective. If the response produces another question, its fuel for thought, and you can even ask another question to further your quest!
Either way – asking for a dream that produces a story, and a perspective is the key, not asking for the answer as such. It’s like having a chat with a dear friend who just knows what’s good for you. So get your technicolour dreamcoat on, tell yourself where you want your dreams to take you, so you can do your best to do the same when you wake up!
© Lauren Neko 2012